Are you facing a big decision, unsure which direction to take or which option to choose?
It could be career-related, such as the choice between two job offers.
Or it could be more personal, like the choice between staying in a relationship or ending it.
If only there was a simple way to make these difficult decisions! Well, maybe there is.
Notice I said “simple,” not “easy.”
I’ve personally found a simple way to make some of my hardest decisions.
But, it requires deep reflection and discipline to utilize it.
I’ve used this same method in working with my clients to help them better face their own difficult decisions.
Here’s how it ‘s worked for me, and how it can work for you.
First, I had to come up with my own personal mission statement.
I’d done a professional mission statement for my business, so why not a personal one just for me?
I had to spend time reflecting on my core values, philosophy, and goals.
Then I had to reflect on how I wanted to carry out those hopes and beliefs.
This took some time and required me to be completely honest with myself and with God.
My personal mission statement:
“To boldly pursue my passions and purpose, and to teach, encourage, and inspire others to do the same, resulting in lives overflowing with joy, peace, and fulfillment.”
Second, I had to remember to use my mission statement as a filter for all my choices.
If the choice didn’t support my mission statement, it had to go.
I had to be disciplined enough to make the decision my mission statement revealed to be the right one.
No matter how difficult it would be.
For example, at the time I wrote my mission statement in late 2015, my friendship with my guy-friend was turning romantic.
The relationship was great at first, but after nine months of dating, I noticed a pattern that had been developing for some time.
This pattern wouldn’t make such a relationship sustainable if certain variables remained the same, which they did.
I wasn’t sure if I should end the relationship or give it another chance.
After much prayer, I was reminded of my mission statement and why I’d written it.
So, I pulled it out and started reading it. I immediately realized that the relationship didn’t support the life goals in my mission statement.
What I had to do
Though I didn’t want to end the relationship, I had to in order to stay true and authentic to my God-given hopes.
It wasn’t an easy thing to do because my heart didn’t feel like ending it.
But my soul knew what was best for me in the long run. (This is why it’s dangerous to subscribe to the “just-follow-your-heart” advice of today’s culture.)
I had to be disciplined enough to push through my fickle emotions which were temporary, and focus on the decision that would make me happier and healthier down the road.
Once I ended it, I received confirmation in so many forms (including red flags that weren’t previously present) and realized I had indeed made the right decision.
Anytime I considered turning back, those red flags served as reminders as to why I had to stick to my decision.
What do you have to do?
Do you have a big decision in your life you soon have to make?
Maybe it involves a move to a new state or a new country.
Maybe it involves going back to school or ending a long-time friendship.
Whatever decision you face, I encourage you to follow a similar process to see if it helps make things a little simpler.
Not easier, just simpler.
It may even make you stronger.